When I was writing my book Under Construction, I asked for
several people if they would give me a quote for the book. After I got these I
asked “How would you like to the quote signed?” For example, Rick H., recovering
alcoholic? Everyone said that would
be fine; except one. He said, please add after my name--recovered alcoholic.
I really wanted the naming convention to be consistent so we
decided we would use the format- Rick H- April/3/90 (sobriety date). However, this discussion, like many I had writing my book,
led me to research the topic at hand.
First to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous;
This is the Foreword as it appeared in the first
printing of the first edition in 1939.
printing of the first edition in 1939.
So no question there –it says recovered- however it specifically
says, recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body.
Then I did a little research on the internet and found one person’s
opinion was that we have recovered when the obsession and compulsion to drink is
lifted as a result of working the program. Lots of other opinions on the topic,
for example many people explained, "I’m an alcoholic, always will be, and will be in
recovery from this disease until the day I die."
I just find it really interesting. Although it says in the
Big Book, “recovered alcoholics”, I don’t ever recall anyone announcing their
names like, “I’m Rick H. recovered alcoholic”. Personally, I don’t think I would ever be
comfortable saying that or writing that I am recovered- I just think of my
journey as continual recovery from the disease of alcohol- first the drinking
part and forever in recovery from the thinking part. Rick H.-recovering alcoholic,
is a reminder that I need to continue to treat my disease.
Certainly I don’t think anyone is suggesting being recovered means we can ever drink
normally again; but it must mean something different than we are recovering.
But I want to hear what others think about this.
Are we
recovered after some time in the program? After some event or change? Or are we
a recovering person until we die?
Should there be a difference how we announce ourselves at a
meeting than how we describe ourselves to people outside the program?
I am attending a little reunion cookout with 3 of my best friends from college this weekend. As you might guess these were my drinking buddies all the way through my 20s.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, the event makes me feel a little uncomfortable as the guys will be drinking and I imagine I will wish I could drink normally with them.
However, I know I cannot. Feeling very much like I am still recoverING.
Very thoughtful, thanks Jeff. When I run into these situations I asked God to go with me and try to remember His presence when anxiety/temptation hits.
ReplyDeleteFor me, we'll never be recovered. I will always introduce myself as a drug addict, because it seems to me that it's obvious I'll be in recovery for the rest of my life. My first AA club--one of the old timers took me in the back room to show me a picture of all the recovered alcoholics/addicts that had come through the club since it's inception. It was a 24x36 EMPTY frame!!!!!!
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