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| ....on the Road to Recovery |
"Other Focused"
Self-focused
How can I get what I want now? What's in it for me?
What can I do to make me happy? How will that affect me?
I have too many things to do to help them.
I can say whatever I want to whomever I want to say it.
Why should I volunteer? There are many others who are available.
Other-focused
What can I do for you today? How is your day going?
Can I help? Who can I call today that is hurting?
What can I give away today to help someone else: time, possessions, a listening ear, a call to say hello, a ride, some service work?
Maybe...
my Higher Power, God, is caring for me, at least partly, so I can be of service to others.
not everything that happens to me is about me.
selfishly doing whatever I want is not the answer to making me feel good.
the feeling that I get when I am unselfish is the touch of God.
working on building good relationships is one of the top priorities in life
I really like the other focused questions. And I do try my best to help others, but there's always something more you can do to take the focus off yourself. It comes back to that selfish/unselfish questions as always. Where's the line? Are you focusing so much on others that you avoid dealing with your own issues? I only say this because I recently struggled with this problem. It took a dear friend, not in the program, to open my eyes and I'm so grateful to him because I was walking a slippery slope and I paid for it emotionally.
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