Reflections........................... on the Road to Recovery
(7)- Manufactured misery
Sometimes life brings us trouble that we did not cause or create. Sometimes we act in a way that brings us trouble.
And sometimes we just "manufacture misery" in our heads. We play around with anger and resentment, we dwell on worries and fears projecting the worst, we focus in on the negative while there are clearly so many positives.....we manufacture our own misery...
Do you remember specifics where you manufactured your own misery?
Why do you think you think we do this?
What recovery tools do you have to deal with this when it happens?
Do you have any manufactured misery going on in your head right now?
If so, what tools willl you use to rid yourself of it?
I am the world champion of manufacturing misery. This has been my M.O. for as long as I can remember. In recovery, I have to make a conscious effort to "let go" or even the smallest things can snowball into a major resentment. My sponsor tells me and I agree that these situations ALL lead directly back to fear. I've learned the best way to handle this is by addressing the issue immediately and don't let it fester. Almost always, it turns out to be nothing and even when there is an actual problem, it gets solved when discussed--one way or the other & it's over. For me, it is crucial that I don't carry any more burden around than is absolutely necessary!!
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